How To Cope With Queefing

queefing blog sex with emilyLet’s talk about queefing.

Whether it’s during yoga or in the passionate throes of a sexy moment…we’ve all been there when embarrassment strikes.

Although it comes in many forms, one of the most notorious is when out of nowhere you hear that sound.

The sound of expelled air.

You think ‘what could it be? Where did it come from?’ Only to make the realization that it was you! Worst of all, there was no way of controlling it.

Welcome, everyone, to the wild and wacky world of queefing. A common fixture in many people’s most humiliating sex stories, best known to make you want to crawl under a rock indefinitely.

But considering frequently as it occurs, do we even understand what it really is? And more importantly, if there’s anything that can be done about it.



Despite often being referred to as “vaginal flatulence” queefing, in reality, is anything but that.

As we go about our daily lives, air finds all kinds of opportunities to sneak its way into the vagina. When its inner walls come in contact with one another, it creates a vacuum-like effect. Since what goes up must also come down, those little spurts (with toot sound in tow) eventually come rushing out as a result of coughing, laughing, stretching or even sex.

When they do make themselves known, it always feels like the most inopportune times ever. Well, say hello to queefing!



Before the panic sets in and makes you wonder whether or not you’re a freak of nature—babe, chill. Know that queefs are a simple and weird fact of life. According to Planned Parenthood, it’s an unavoidable one. 

Even though it may seem like they only happen at the absolute worst, most embarrassing times possible, the good (I guess we’d call it?) news is that queefs are one of many bodily functions we, for the most part, can’t control. While it would be great to have a magical cure to ward them off whenever desired, the best we can do is know what makes them a little more likely to happen – especially during sex.


The Root Of Sexy Time Queefing

Whenever we’re turned on, the vagina naturally expands. Which means that sticking fingers, penises and toys up there at the same time makes it easy for extra air to tag along, too. When it comes time for powerful thrusting, vigorously switching positions and styles of sex where your pelvis is tilted upward, that air is even more prone to make a cringeworthy escape.

Of course, everyone’s bodies are different, and some may be more sensitive to one of these factors than another. So if looking to minimize your chances of queefing, just pay attention to which of these factors affects you most, find ways to avoid it, and try busting out the Kegel workouts to strengthen your pelvic floor, too!



An unwelcomed queef can no doubt feel distressing in the moment, but in the long run, there’s really nothing to be embarrassed about.

Sex, in general, is a funny thing. It’s messy, awkward, fantastic and strange all at the same time. So the sounds, smells and other things that naturally happen along with it fit perfectly into this mix as well.

At the end of the day, if you have a partner who’s nice, respectful and recognizes intimacy for everything it is – both good and weird – then rebounding from even the most unexpected sexual moments won’t have to feel like much of a challenge. Besides, something super-hot inevitably caused it in the first place, so it’s definitely not worth letting those imminent queefs rain on your pleasure parade.


For anyone who thinks intimacy is a perfectly pristine process, it’s most definitely time to think again. Queefing (among other things) is just part of the sexual process. So whenever it strikes, just remember it’s natural, it’s normal, you can laugh it off and get back to the steamy action. Or you can embrace it and be the queef queen! 


Alex Anderson is an LA-based lifestyle designer proactively raging against the cultural grain. By day she works in television production, and by night enjoys writing, sewing and seeking guidance from the stars. She also finally has an all black kitty named “Cher.” You can follow her website and on Instagram!
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