If you’ve ever listened to Sex with Emily, you know we LOVE sex toys. However, finding toys for sex toy virgins is hard—especially when you don’t even know what they are capable of doing.
We’re here to help, holding your hand and gently guiding you through popping your own sex toy cherry. After all, sex toys are a fantastic addition to everyone’s sex life. Don’t limit yourself by thinking you can only use them for solo-sex either. They are wonderful sexual wingmen during partnered sex.
Where to buy your first sex toy
Long gone are the days of back-alley sex toy handoffs, and dingy basement sex shops. Thank goodness. Now there are lots of places to buy sex toys. So many that it can be overwhelming. You may prefer to go in person to your local sex toy shop, and support small local businesses. This is a great option if you would rather touch and try a toy first. However, a lot of sex toy first-timers are nervous to go in person.
Lucky for you, there are lots of amazing options for buying sex toys online, that make the online shopping experience a breeze. Here are our top 4 picks for sex toys virgins, so you can wet your whistle and bring more pleasure into your life. Let’s dive in!
1. The Womanizer
Best for: Vulva Owners
Skill level required for use: Beginner
Results: Mind blowing orgasms in minutes
The Womanizer is a truly revolutionary product. Its unique ‘Pleasure Air Technology’ stimulates your clitoris with indirect pressure. It encloses your clitoris without touching it and stimulates with soft pressure waves. The sensation is similar to gentle sucking, and combined with its soft vibrations, it can deliver mind-blowing orgasms.
It’s 100% waterproof, so you can use it in the bath or shower. This is great for first time sex-toy users, as many vulva-owners start out using shower or bath faucets for masturbation. Bring in the Womanizer on your next sudsy adventure for double the fun.
But it’s not just the classic Womanizer that’s amazing, they have a beautiful collection with something for everybody. If you’d like to experiment with penetration, try the Womanizer DUO. It provides the perfect blend of clitoral and G-spot stimulation. This toy really delivers by combining the pleasure air technology for your clit while massaging your G-spot perfectly with the curved and powerful vibrator. This one is perfect for achieving those mind-meltingly good blended orgasms.
2. Magic Wand
Best for: Anyone, regardless of gender or genitals
Skill level required for use: Beginner
Results: Powerful vibrations guaranteed to knock your socks off
The Magic Wand has been a bedside table staple for over 50 years. For a reason! This massager is incredibly powerful, and is fantastic for every person who enjoys pleasure. Regardless of gender, genitals, age, mobility, the Magic Wand delivers powerful pleasure to all.
The reason it’s so good for sex toy beginners is that it really helps you explore your entire body and it’s many erogenous zones, not just your genitals. It delivers broad stimulation through its powerful head. You can press it to your inner thigh and still feel delicious vibrations deep into your pelvis.
For first timers, the Magic Wand Plus is your best model choice. It has all the power of the Original (all the way up to 6,300 PRM!), as well as the high-end features of the Rechargeable. It has the Rechargeable’s four intensity levels, as well as four different vibration patterns.
Because it was originally marketed as a personal body massager, it can still pass as just that, making it ideal for anyone who may need to hide their sex toys. As a bonus, the Magic Wand Plus is particularly easy to hide, because the cord detaches for easy compact storage.
3. Zumio
Best for: Anyone, regardless of gender or genitals
Skill level required for use: Beginner
Results: Pinpoint unique erogenous zones for immense pleasure
This is one of the most fantastic sex toys out there, particularly for sex-toy beginners. It’s absolutely changing the sex toy game with its unique approach to stimulation. Instead of vibrating, the tiny but powerful Zumio round tip quickly ROTATES in small circles. This means you can pinpoint unique stimulation to learn more about your personal arousal experience.
Part of why this is so cool is because nerve endings actually respond differently when stimulated in one small group at a time. Because of this, arousal can be much quicker, and the variety of pleasure you experience is more varied than traditional vibration-based toys.
It’s great for sex toy beginners because it helps you explore different pleasure zones all over your body, as well as get really clear on what you like, and exactly where you like it, on your genital pleasure zones.
Not to mention, it is whisper-quiet, waterproof and very discreet. Just three more reasons it’s perfect for sex toy beginners.
4. Zolo Cup
Best for: People with a penis
Skill level required for use: Beginner
Results: Discreet and pleasurable fun for penis-owners
A lot of sex toys are marketed towards vulva-owners. Many penis-owners feel confused and daunted as to what sex toy to buy for themselves. Until now. Introducing, the Zolo Cup…
Zolo products are created to deliver intense and pleasurable sensations to penis-owners. Their Zolo Cup series has 7 different unique textures and sensations, so there is something for everyone. The grip-perfecting ergonomic shape and snug, textured inner channel is an erotic delight for any penis-owner.
The Original is ideal for first-timers and puts you in control by allowing you to adjust the suction simply with your finger.
They can even help build up sexual endurance for partner sex, by practicing edging during solo play with the cup. Super easy to use, convenient for travel, and very discreet and easy to hide, making them a perfect toy for sex toy virgins who have a penis to play with.
Sex Toy Sex-essories
Congratulations on picking out your first ever sex toy, we are so excited for you! Pleasure is important, and you’re well on your way to making it a priority in your life. But now that you have your toy picked out, you might need some accessories.
Choosing the right lube for your toy is key! I cannot stress this enough. Now that you’ve invested in your beautiful toy, you don’t want to degrade and destroy it by using the wrong lube.
Some of the best lube ever is from pjur, they have an incredible range, so whether you need water-based, oil-based, or silicone-based, they have you covered.
Make sure to keep your sex toy fresh (and your body healthy) by cleaning it before and after each use with a high-quality toy cleaner. It can be easy to get wrapped up in your pleasure and forget, so make it part of your routine.
If you’re feeling nervous about using a sex toy for the first time, or just need a little help getting out of your head and into your body, CBD can be a fantastic addition.
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We hope you loved reading all about our fave sex toys for beginners, and it helped you pick out your first ever toy, or chose one to gift a friend or lover. Send us an email or hit us up on Instagram and let us know which one you chose!
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Isabella Frappier is an Australian ex-pat living in LA, who swapped gumtrees for palm trees. She’s a writer and a holistic Sexuality Doula, who specializes in body literacy, sexual sovereignty, and BDSM.
She is also a host on the popular new Sex Magic Podcast. When she’s not busy championing her sex positive agenda, she–oh wait–she’s always busy doing that. Follow her adventure on Instagram.
