Did you know your testosterone levels are up to 30% higher first thing in the morning than later in the day?

Yet, a majority of couples admit they skip sex simply because they’re too exhausted by 10 PM.

If your bedtime routine looks more like mindlessly binge watching TV shows together rather than ripping each other’s clothes off, you’re not broken. You’re just looking at the wrong end of the clock. It’s time we dive into the science of morning sex.

The Science Behind Morning Sex and Your Hormones

Why does morning sex feel so damn good? It’s Biology.

Between 7:00 and 9:00 AM, our sex hormones hit their natural 24-hour peak. Testosterone surges in both penis and vulva owners, priming your libido before you even check your phone.

You can thank your endocrine system for doing the seductive heavy lifting for you while you’re still half-asleep.

And there’s also a huge plus to starting your day with an orgasm. Orgasms release an explosion of oxytocin and endorphins. So you get deeply connected, de-stressed, and radiantly energized before your morning commute even starts.

Waiting Until Bedtime Can Backfire

Don’t get me wrong: evening sex is wonderful and has amazing benefits as well.

But when you’re always pushing intimacy to the end of the day when you have the least amount of energy, the chances that sex gets deprioritized increase.

After 8+ hours at a desk, commuting, answering Slack pings, and making dinner, your sympathetic nervous system is fried. Expecting yourself to switch effortlessly from stressed-and-tired to ready-for-action by 10:30 PM is an unfair expectation.

Studies show couples who carve out time for morning intimacy actually have more sex overall, simply because fatigue is no longer stealing their pleasure.

Wake Up Aligned and Primed

I’m not going to pretend that we all wake up feeling completely rejuvenated and full of energy every single morning.

If you wake up with a stiff lower back, aching joints, or sleep-deprived brain fog, you’re going to reach for a double espresso, not your partner.

Restorative sleep is non-negotiable for a vibrant sex life. And there are real ways you can feel your best in the morning to take full advantage of your peak sex hormones. 

When couples aren’t getting good sleep, the first thing I suggest they take a look at is their mattress. You’d be surprised how often a simple mattress swap is all people need to get better sleep.

Your mattress is the hero of the bedroom, and people don’t realize how unhealthy their mattresses are.

I actually just upgraded mine to an Essentia Organic Mattress, and it’s been a gamechanger. Here’s what I love about my mattress:

• No morning stiffness: It gently cradles your hips and lower back so you don’t wake up feeling creaky.
• Actually clean: Made with certified organic latex. No toxic off-gassing or weird chemical smells that you’re breathing in.
• Sleeps cool: It doesn’t trap body heat, keeping you in deep, restorative sleep all night.

Beyond your mattress, there are other important upgrades you should consider for your sleeping environment: making sure your room is cold enough, dark enough, quiet enough. Also, letting natural light shine through the window in the morning does wonders for helping your body wake itself up naturally.

Feeling good and well-rested when you wake up isn’t only reserved for “morning people.” And when you prioritize your sleep and your sleep environment, it makes it a million times easier to prioritize your sex life too.

Rethink Your Morning Routine

If it’s been difficult for you and your partner to find time for sex at the end of the day, I highly recommend switching it up with a morning sesh.

Pro-Tip: If morning breath gets in your head, keep some mints on your nightstand so you can freshen up without even leaving the bed.

Even a playful five-minute quickie before you get out of bed is enough to flood your system with feel-good chemistry and start off your day on a good note.

The point is to find what works for you and your body. Morning sex might become your new favorite way to connect, or you might discover that another time of day works better for you. Either way, there’s no harm in experimenting.

And with all the science-backed benefits, why not give morning sex a try? You might just find that a little pleasure before your morning coffee is exactly what you need to head into the rest of your day in a good mood!