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Lindsay here from Los Angeles. I love your show and following your tips has truly helped me have the best sex of my life.
I’ve done something that I know is wrong, I went snooping. Reading my boyfriends emails and texts.
I was hurt so badly in my last relationship that I look at this as an insurance policy.
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I live in San Francisco and although I’m only 24, I haven’t had sex in over a year, and now I’m beginning to date a new guy who is great.
I’ve never been nervous to be intimate with a man before, but now every time we get close I get super awkward.
I feel like I’m not sure how to “be” with anyone anymore, and I’m getting in my head about it. Please help! Continue Reading
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I’m a big fan of masturbation.
It’s something I’ve done since I was a teenager, and feel like I’ve always had a pretty healthy outlook on what it brings to both the self-care and partnered sex arenas.
Fantasy, of course, often goes along with it. But for the past couple of months, I’ve had one particular thought that I can’t get off my mind. Much less, have been able to figure out…
Is it normal to want to eat your own ejaculate?
How do I approach women? Growing up in SF during the seventies was not great for a men’s sense of masculine self, hearing what “pigs” men are.
I want to express my interest in women, but in a respectful way and I feel lost.
It’s not fun to choke all the time, even when I know a woman is into me… Continue Reading
I am 60-years-old and still would like to be sexually active. My wife does not care for sex anymore, so I end up masturbating a lot. Sometimes I masturbate 5 or 6 times a week.
I enjoy doing it and it makes me feel good and wanted. Am I abnormal in my feelings and can you ever masturbate too much? Any advice for me?
Q: “Dear Emily,
In many of your Podcasts, I’ve heard you talk about “Jackhammer Sex”, and how men should stop doing it immediately. After hearing it for the third or fourth time, I realized something. My partner is guilty of the Jackhammer, too! I thought it was totally normal to have sex this way, and didn’t really mind it, but now I’m wondering.. If not the jackhammer, then what? What are some alternatives to Jackhammer sex?
Q: DEAR EMILY,
First off, I love the show – thank you for everything you do! I’ll jump right to it – my husband has been struggling with erectile dysfunction for a few years now and it’s taking a toll on both of us. I want to stress that he hasn’t been ignoring it – he’s had prescriptions for both Viagra and Cialis, and they usually do the trick. However, the results have been less reliable lately.
The bigger issue, though, is that I think the situation is getting him depressed.
He’s 56 and until this started, we had a very active sex life. I’ve been listening to you for a while, and I know that communication is a lubrication – so we talk about it often, but that’s led to some tense situations and now we’re both feeling the weight of this condition.
I want to come up with a way to help him, or at least let him know that he’s not letting me down, even though that’s what he winds up thinking every time I bring it up. Help me do what’s right here, Emily!
Cyndy, 54, NM
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I’m a 27-year-old female, and I’ve basically been single my entire adult life. I’ve had relationships, but nothing longer than a few months. I’ve wanted to be in a relationship for as long as I can remember, but I also try to put it out of my mind so I don’t obsess about it. I have met a few guys at work or on a dating app, but it seems that they just want to text every day and not actually meet up.
So I want to know: How can I meet a good guy? And if I am talking to a guy via text, how can I make a date happen?
Q: DEAR EMILY,
I have an extremely healthy (and safe) sex life with my boyfriend—but here’s my issue. I have no idea how to talk dirty. Normally I’d say how great he feels inside of me, tell him to put his hands here or there, but I get stuck after this. I don’t want to sound like a porn star, but I do want him to be turned on from what I say.
What can I say besides this to turn him on that isn’t too intense?