I’m a 20-year-old girl from England. As far as I know, I’m completely straight and in love with my long-term boyfriend. (OK, there was one time that I hooked up with a girl, but I decided it’s just not for me.)
Here’s the thing: When I masturbate (and even sometimes when my boyfriend is going down on me), I think about girls having sex with girls. Mainly, I imagine situations where a girl is having lesbian sex for the first time. Am I normal?! Am I even straight? There are absolutely no issues with my boyfriend and I really don’t think I’m gay. Am I maybe bisexual? Am I alone?
Bi-Curious Britney in Britain
Hi Emily, My fiancé and I have a great relationship and one of our favorite things to do is travel. My question is, what are the rules for flying with sex toys? We fly a lot and have been talking about purchasing a few toys to bring with us on our adventures, we just haven’t been sure how to go about it. What toys travel well? What might get us busted and embarrassed in a long airport line?
For example, I’ve had my eye on the Magic Wand for a long time. This may sound silly, but I’m not sure if I can only fly with it in my checked bag or if I can carry it on with me. I checked online, but couldn’t find much on the TSA website (no big surprise there). Can you help us get more pleasure out of our adventures abroad?
I’ve been listening to your podcast for two years and can’t get enough! Your advice for others has always been spot-on, so now I’ve got a question of my own. I’ve recently started to get serious about dating, and I think I’m finally ready to be in a relationship. I’ve met a couple great guys so far, but there’s one issue I keep getting hung up on: sex. I love sex and am very open, but I think that’s the problem. In the past, I’ve gotten into bed with guys pretty quickly, and it’s never turned into anything real. How long do you recommend dating someone before you start having sex? —Dee
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and love him to bits. He’s great! The only thing that kinda gets me down is that he doesn’t last as long as he used to. He says that he’s just too turned on, which I guess I understand, but he doesn’t try to help me finish. What can I do to help him last longer? And how can I get him to understand that he should be helping ME orgasm too, not rolling over and passing out?
Thank you for your insight!
Miranda from Canada
Okay Miranda, this is a sensitive situation, and not entirely uncommon. Men’s stamina has a tendency to fluctuate over time, so I’m not concerned here—there are plenty of ways you can work together to help him last longer. What I’m more concerned about is the fact that he doesn’t seem to care about pleasing you first. Continue Reading
Can Dating Your Coworker Actually Work?
I have really been getting into this girl at work. We keep it professional, but we also find time and ways to flirt and joke around. I’ve noticed though that she also jokes around with a couple other guys in the office, so I am not sure if she is into me or just flirty. What is the best way to approach asking out a girl that you work with? If it turns out she isn’t into me, work will become really awkward and I’m sure gossip and rumors will start. I don’t want to miss out on a chance to take her on a date, but only if she is interested.
Turning Into An Oral Sex Pro
I dated a girl for eight years who wasn’t at all into receiving oral sex. Even though I was totally into giving her oral pleasure, she just wasn’t a fan for some reason. We eventually broke up, but because of that long relationship without it, I have no idea what I’m doing down there. Now I’m dating a new girl who is amazing, blunt and honest about what she wants in the bedroom. She recently let it drop that she likes receiving oral. How can I go from novice to pro so I can make her experience a good one?
Mike Continue Reading
Begging For A Pegging
I’m 21 and have been with my girlfriend for four years. We’re close and she’s pretty open to trying new things in bed, but I want to know how I should bring up pegging to her? She will occasionally finger my back door but she feels a little weird about it. I really don’t know if she will be into it or not and I don’t want to freak her out.
Dean Continue Reading
I don’t want to ruin my chances of finding something serious.
How soon is too soon to have sex with someone you’re into? Is there a magic number? You don’t want to come off eager, but you don’t want the connection to fizzle out either.
Every relationship is different, and your attraction level will vary from person to person. Sometimes you want to jump their bones on the first date, and sometimes you need to feel it out for a little longer. There’s no right answer when it comes to choosing the perfect time to consummate.
In this video, I lead long time listener Debbie to the best way to choose the time that’s right for her. Sometimes all you need is a little reminder of what’s most important when it comes to sleeping with someone new.
Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 8 months and have still never had a REAL orgasm during sex. And as if this isn’t bad enough, my partner has no idea, because I’ve gotten into the habit of faking it. I know, it’s terrible!
Did my favorite sex toy make me unable to orgasm?
This is a question I frequently get asked, mostly from women who frequent one high-powered sex toy and worry about it de-sensitizing their lady parts.
Many of us have been there. We find a toy that we love, that nails it every damn time, and give it the starring role in our solo sex life. But then, over time, the orgasms stop coming, and the worrying begins. Maybe the toy was TOO good at it’s job? Maybe it’s ruined me for all other sex toys? Why has my Magic Wand forsaken me? Continue Reading