If you thought Valentine’s Day was hard when there was only two of you, where do you turn for tasteful tips when you’re in a thrupple? Or have a spouse and a girlfriend?
It doesn’t matter how old you are or how long you’ve been with a partner — Talking about sex is hard. But hey, that’s why you’ve got Emily! In today’s show, she’s helping callers find the right words to say to communicate their way through sex and relationship troubles.
Recently I have been dealing with an issue that I can’t seem to wrap my head around: I’m in love with a man who is absolutely awful at performing oral sex. He doesn’t go down on me very often, but when he does it’s sloppy and rough and all over the place – I mean, really terrible! I just don’t get it… He is a great kisser and is so good with his hands, but when it comes to oral sex, he seems to be completely clueless.
I don’t want to mess up what we have because everything else in the sex department is great, but I NEED more oral sex. How can I help him get better at going down? How can I get him to go down me, period?
I began having sex at a relatively young age. I was 15 when my boyfriend and I decided we were going to lose our virginities to each other. Well, more like his friends asked when we were finally going to get it over with. Although it may not have come up for a few months if it was never brought to our attention, I was sure (at the time) that this was who I wanted to go through this life event with. Needless to say, that relationship lasted for maybe one more month before it was over.
From that point on, whenever I’d have sex with someone, it would be on their terms and not my own. All I wanted to do was please, because if he was having a good time, so was I… Or at least, I THOUGHT I was. I wasn’t even aware that my own sexual experience was being put on the back burner. I was young, I had no idea what an orgasm felt like, and the guys I was seeing only had their climax in mind. Continue Reading
It’s easy to forget about the double standards that surround sex when you’re an avid follower of Sex With Emily, especially when you work here. Yet, once I leave the office, it soon becomes abundantly clear that certain archaic ways of thinking about sex still exist.
Whether it’s from conversations I have with friends, cat-callers on the street, or scenes that pop up on TV, I am repeatedly reminded that, as a woman, there are always going to be people making assumptions about my sex life. They will pigeonhole and stereotype and doubt my ability to enjoy sex in a healthy way. They will form opinions, usually uninformed ones, based on what they THINK they know to be true. Because who’s more of an expert on my sex life than strangers?
NEWSFLASH: Women like sex just as much as men. Continue Reading
I’m 21 and have been with my girlfriend for four years. We’re close and she’s pretty open to trying new things in bed, but I want to know how I should bring up pegging to her? She will occasionally finger my back door but she feels a little weird about it. I really don’t know if she will be into it or not and I don’t want to freak her out.
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There are a few firsts that every guy remembers: His first erection, his first time seeing a naked woman, his first time “doing the deed;” and then there’s the one that no man forgets, even though he wishes he could: his first time caught masturbating. Continue Reading
In the newest Sex With Emily podcast, we’re talking about how to find the happiness you’ve been seeking in your relationships, your sex life and, most importantly, in yourself! Today’s email topics include mismatched libidos, pegging and happy endings. Emily also touches on two subjects she feels passionately about, meditation and massage, and explains how both practices can improve your overall wellness and relationship satisfaction. Continue Reading
On today’s show, Emily is joined by guest host Lynette Carolla of the For Crying Out Loud podcast, as well as comedian, actress and best-selling author Heather McDonald. Together, this powerhouse trifecta of female podcasters dish on the latest celebrity scandals, secrets for having a lasting marriage and, of course, sex! Continue Reading
Whenever I go on a date with a new guy, I always start off by asking the basics. What are your hobbies? Where do work? Gaga or Katy? The list can go on for quite a while. Eventually, I start asking more serious questions about his sex life. This always throws them off, but you never know what can happen, so you have to prepare yourself for this conversation every time. Whether you’ve been waiting for the perfect moment to have sex with your partner or you just met someone, these guidelines will help you have safe and enjoyable sex. Some of these suggestions might seem like common sense, but most of us forget them along the way. Continue Reading