The ultimate indulgence has to be a full-body orgasm. 

You may have heard about them in Tantra, or in other forms of spiritual sex. You don’t have to be spiritual to get one, but a full-body orgasm just might have you believing in the divine. 

For this exercise, you’ll want to:

• set aside at least an hour
• tap into your deep breathing
• have either lube or erotic massage oil at the ready

…so that you can awaken every nerve ending and touch every square inch of your body. 

I recommend watching the Pleasure & Connection Workshop from Dolly Josette in my community-based membership & app Smart SX where she teaches you how to do this. These 7 tricks are adapted from her workshop, and you can try all of these solo or with a partner.

1. Activate your erogenous zones

Erogenous zones tend to be areas of the body where skin is thinnest. These areas are filled with sensitive and pleasurable nerve endings, but most of the time they are “unactivated” – a little numb, turned off, not receiving sensation. 

To turn them on, apply soft, repetitive motions to each zone. Bring your full attention to the sensations. You can start simply with your hands: one hand gives touch, the other receives touch, closing your eyes and running your fingers softly on one hand to wake up its nerve endings. Run the pad of your finger along your palm, between your fingers, on the bottom of the wrist…all while focusing intently on the sensations you feel. 

Repeat this process for as many zones as you can. Erogenous zones on your body include: 

• Genitals
• Perineum (the stretch of skin between genitals and anus)
• Breasts
• Nipples
• Mouth and lips
• Nape of the neck
• Inner thighs
• Buttocks
• Lower abdomen and pubic area
• Ears, including earlobes
• Navel and lower stomach
• Shoulders
• Hips and sides of the torso
• Hands and wrists
• Inner elbow
• Shins and calves
• Cheeks
• Area behind the knees
• Upper arms
• Feet
• Temples and eyes
• Forearms
• Toes

Hot tip: experiment with different forms of touch. Try soft caresses, grabs, light scratches, and squeezes.

2. Move the sensations

Next, drop into the “non-touch touch” after sensations. Place your attention on any parts of your body that feel tingly and alive. Take deep breaths in, deep breaths out. 

Now, visualize moving these sensations deeper, feeling them more internally. This is how we grow our perception of sensation. 

These first two steps are activities I recommend doing as often as you can, not only in a full-body O sesh. These activities will help you become more embodied in general. (Embodiment is the key to bigger orgasms.)

3. Get audible 

Start expressing the sensation. 

Research shows that vocalizations and sexual pleasure are connected. When sensations are deepening and growing, we can build sexual energy by moaning and expressing. Vocalizations help disperse the energy, allowing us to drop even more deeply into our bodies during stimulation. 

If you’re doing this with a partner, be an active receiver: make noise, moan to indicate pleasure, and let them know what you like. Generous lovers are “greedy” lovers in that they express their pleasure, so you can tell them “that feels good” or “more” as you build energy and connect.

4. Take away sight

You can also heighten the sensations by focusing your attention.

When you take away one sense, like sight, the others (like touch) tend to sharpen. As we move towards full-body pleasure, we want to do as much as we can to sink deep into the sensations. Removing sight is a great way to do that. 

You don’t need much for this trick, a tie or scarf will do. But if you feel like splurging, Je Joue’s Naughty Gift Set comes with a blindfold, erotic massage candle to kick those touch sensations up a notch, a sex truth or dare game, and a vibrator that you can run along any part of your body. It has low-frequency rumbles to stimulate nerve endings deep inside.

5. Layer the erogenous zones

Another fun trick to try is stimulating two or more erogenous zones at a time. This is called layering.

You can do this with yourself or a partner. Try stimulating these zones together:

• Lips + sides of waist
• Back of knee + inner thighs
• Breasts + inner elbow
• Genitals + buttocks
• Shoulders + chest
• Neck + nipples

On that last one, vibrating nipple clamps are an amazing way to layer (and possibly have a nipplegasm!) Whenever you pair two erogenous zones together, incorporate toys, tongues, fingers, lube, warming massage oil and anything else you can think of. 

6. Delay genital stimulation 

To make your genital sensations more vivid, activate all your other erogenous zones first. This is where mindful masturbation can really help you out. 

Get into a meditative state by breathing deeply for 5-10 minutes. Inhale for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts, exhale for 4 counts, hold for 4 counts. Repeat until 5 to 10 minutes has passed, focusing on the breath. If it’s helpful, you can even say “in” on the inhale, “out” on the exhale to stay focused. If distracting thoughts come up, that’s OK. Just release them and return to the breath.

After your breathwork, do mindful masturbation by touching every inch of your body first. Finally, when you feel aroused and activated everywhere, stimulate your genitals but keep the deep breathing going. This will encourage blood flow as you get closer to orgasm.

7. Go for an internal orgasm

You have to really commit to having a full-body orgasm, but one way to get there is by aiming for an internal orgasm. 

Because these orgasms originate in a deeper part of your body, they tend to feel more totalistic in nature. You have to build up a huge amount of tension and sensation to even reach these nerve endings, so the release feels all-consuming. 

If you have a penis, this means having a prostate orgasm: 

Here is a guide to prostate massage. 

If you have a vulva, this means having a G-spot orgasm:

Here is a guide to finding and stimulating the G-spot.

Here are some more tips from Dolly Josette if you’re working on full-body orgasms with a partner: 

• Ask yourself, what do I need at the gateway of arousal? Reflect on the type of sexual initiations with a partner or yourself that feels good and builds anticipation.
• Get specific. Words like “right here in this spot” is excellent feedback for a partner. 
• Don’t tolerate unpleasant touch. You’re training your body to shut down and numb. When you feel unpleasant touch, stop and do something else. 

Full-body orgasms aren’t a myth, but they do take time. Don’t beat yourself if you don’t have one right away. With heightened embodiment, relaxation, sensitivity and sensation, you too can experience this holy grail of pleasure. An orgasm so big, it reaches your fingertips? Praise. 

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