In this Sex with Emily episode, comedian Adam Ferrara reveals why he sits by the front door with his dog for exactly 15 minutes every time his wife says “I’ll be right there” and how learning each other’s patterns became the secret to their successful long-term marriage.
Adam breaks down the difference between reacting and responding, sharing how his Italian upbringing taught him to react emotionally while his marriage taught him to respond from choice. He explains his breakthrough moment realizing that “worry is not responsibility”- a revelation that helped him separate anxiety from actual care-taking and discusses his journey off ADD medication in favor of meditation and therapy.
Through a caller’s dilemma about losing sexual attraction to her boyfriend while being tempted by someone else, Emily and Adam explore whether sexual chemistry can be built or if some relationships lack that essential foundation. They tackle the hard truth about the two-year relationship mark when initial passion fades, and provide practical tools like the “Yes, No, Maybe” list for couples working to rebuild intimacy together.
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction
1:32 – Losing Sexual Attraction After 2 Years
3:20 – Breaking Down Sexual Compatibility vs. Chemistry Issues
6:46 – The Oral Sex Double Standard Problem
8:13 – Creating vs. Fixing Sexual Connection
11:51 – Adam Ferrara on Anxiety & “Worry is Not Responsibility”
13:27 – Emily’s Therapy Process: ADD, Self-Worth & Achievement
16:39 – Finding Presence Through Performance & Connection
18:25 – Marriage Communication: Learning Each Other’s Patterns
22:43 – Reacting vs. Responding: Managing Emotional Impulses
25:43 – Meditation Practice: Separating Thoughts from Identity
29:24 – Practical Meditation Tips for Anxiety & ADD
31:16 – Childhood Trauma & Long-Term Anxiety Development
33:26 – Therapy Benefits: Life Tools, Not Stigma
34:28 – Five Quickie Questions
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