In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily tackles one of the biggest barriers to great sex: fear. From fear of rejection to body image anxieties, this episode explores how our sexual fears hold us back and provides practical strategies for overcoming them. Dr. Emily opens with the fundamental truth that fear is often “false evidence appearing real” – we create rules around what we’re afraid of and then live by them, preventing ourselves from having the sex we truly want and deserve.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Emily addresses common sexual fears from farting during sex to penis size anxieties to performance worries, emphasizing that we’re all perfectionists when it comes to sex despite reality being much messier and more human. The episode concludes with the empowering message that facing our fears is the path to becoming our own best sexual advocate. When we ask for what we want authentically, we either get our needs met or gain valuable information about compatibility, because we all deserve pleasure and shouldn’t put ourselves last in our own sexual lives.

Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction
0:23 – How Antidepressants Affect Your Sex Life
1:15 – Female Sexuality and Cultural Double Standards
2:30 – Wetness Myths: Arousal vs. Lubrication Explained
6:26 – When You’re “Too Wet” – Solutions and Normalizing
8:17 – Understanding Arousal Beyond Physical Signs
9:06 – Kegel Exercises for Better Orgasms
13:15 – Caller April: Relationship Stress Killing Sex Drive
17:00 – Communication Red Flags in Relationships
22 23:40 – Prozac and Orgasm Difficulties
26:31 – Switching from Lexapro to Wellbutrin Success Story
28:40 – Why Medication Doses Differ for Women