If you’ve ever found yourself wishing sex or solo play could last longer- or that your orgasms felt even more intense- it might be time to explore edging. This underrated technique is all about teasing yourself (or your partner) right to the brink of orgasm… and then pulling back. Done right, it can turn a good climax into an unforgettable one.

Because when it comes to sexual pleasure, sometimes not finishing right away is the sexiest move you can make.

So, what is edging?

Edging (also known as orgasm control) is the practice of bringing yourself—or a partner—right up to the point of climax… and then easing off. You stay at that peak level of arousal (think a 9 out of 10 on the pleasure scale) without going over the edge.

And when you do finally let go? That orgasm hits harder. Deeper. Louder. Longer.

Why edging is so worth it

• Longer, stronger orgasms. The more tension you build before release, the more powerful that orgasm will feel. Edging keeps your body flooded with arousal—so when you finally come, it’s fireworks.
• Better sexual stamina. Whether you’re solo or partnered, edging helps you learn your own arousal patterns and build control—so you can last longer and decide when to finish.
• More connection. In a partnered setting, edging requires communication, presence, and a focus on mutual pleasure. It’s one of the best ways to slow down, explore each other, and really tune in.
• A deeper understanding of your body. Edging helps you track the sensations and signals that lead to orgasm—so you can better communicate what you like, and how you like it.

How to edge solo

• Start slow and build. Use your hand or a toy to gradually build arousal. This isn’t a race—so take your time exploring what feels good.
• Find your edge. When you feel yourself getting close, stop or reduce stimulation. Try deep breathing and stay present while the sensation calms.
• Repeat the cycle. Once you’re back below that orgasm threshold, start building again. Do this two to three times before finally letting yourself climax. The longer the build-up, the bigger the payoff.

How to edge with a partner

• Communicate first. Let your partner know you want to explore edging. Set verbal cues like “pause,” “slow down,” or “not yet” to keep things fun and consensual.
• Build the heat. Start with foreplay—kissing, touching, mutual masturbation—and slowly ramp things up. Focus on sensation over speed.
• Tease, then deny. Just when things are getting intense, slow it down or stop altogether. Then pick it back up. This tease-and-deny rhythm creates unreal anticipation.
• Take turns in control. Give and receive. Let one person edge the other—then switch. Playing with power and pleasure like this makes for an incredibly connective experience.

Want to take edging to the next level?

Try a delay spray

A product like Popstar Delay Spray is designed to help you last longer without sacrificing sensation. With 10% lidocaine, it slightly reduces sensitivity so you can stay in control, edge with ease, and build to a more intense orgasm. It kicks in within 5–10 minutes, lasts up to an hour, and comes in a sleek, fragrance-free formula that’s dermatologist-tested and paraben-free. Whether you’re edging solo or with a partner, Popstar helps turn stamina into satisfaction.

Add some breathwork
Slowing your breath helps you stay in that aroused-but-not-over-the-edge zone. Bonus: it keeps you grounded in your body.

Bring in some toys
Vibrators, strokers, and even pelvic floor tools can make edging more dynamic. Mix it up to keep things exciting.

Change it up
Switch positions, tempo, or sensation style mid-session. A little novelty keeps your body guessing—and engaged.

The big O is worth the wait

Edging isn’t about withholding pleasure—it’s about expanding it. It’s choosing to play in that delicious space just before orgasm… because that’s where the magic is. Whether you’re flying solo or getting steamy with a partner, orgasm control is one of the most powerful tools for building sexual confidence and deeper satisfaction.

So next time things start heating up? Don’t rush. Ride the wave, hold the O—and enjoy the journey.