Dear Emily,
I bought the Magic Wand and I’m actually questioning myself! Am I doing this right? It’s not working for me.
Thanks!
Monica
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Dear Monica,
Sometimes you have to get to know your vibrator before you can get into the right groove. Starting out with a vibrator is sort of like starting an illustrious affair with a new lover. Things can start out kind of clumsy, but once you discover how the other works, the sex becomes better and hopefully orgasmic! Luckily for you, the Magic Wand is one of the most powerful vibrators in the world with the sole purpose of making you orgasm.
First, make sure that you’re applying the wand to your clitoris. Many vibrators are designed for clitoral stimulation and not for vaginal insertion. I recommend clitoral vibrators for everyone’s first vibrator. If you’re not sure where you’re clitoris is located, get a pocket mirror and take a long, overdue look at your vulva. The clitoris is the little bump under a hood above the opening of the vagina. That is your pleasure center, and it’s packed with nerve endings. This is where you’ll want to focus on the vibration of your toy for maximum stimulation.
Technique
Remember, the Magic Wand is extremely powerful, so when first starting out with it, use the low setting and apply it to the areas around your clitoris, and work your way towards the center.
As far as technique goes, some people find that it feels great to rotate the wand in a circular motion, and others like to keep it in one spot. Some find that it feels great to switch between applied pressure, pressing the wand in, and no pressure at all. Everyone experiences pleasure differently, so don’t hesitate to try different things out and see what feels best.
If you find that the Magic Wand isn’t your cup of tea–even though it’s a Long Island Iced Tea in my book–there are other vibrators out there! Do your due diligence and spend some time shopping around for the kind of experience you’re looking for. After all, vibrators are like lovers–they’re all different, and sometimes it’s more fun to have multiples!
xo
Emily
