Welcome to PSL Season, aka fall! Let’s celebrate all things hot and cozy with an autumnal sex bucket list.
The great thing about sex is you can have it so many ways. With a partner, with more than one partner, with yourself; high kink, high vanilla; extremely loud or incredibly quiet; toyless or all-out toy party. But sometimes we fall into unsexy habits: masturbating on cruise control, doing the exact same sequence of events in bed with your partner, over and over again…things can get boring.
That’s why it’s good to have a sex bucket list on-hand for instant inspo! Screenshot your faves as you go through the list, because as things get chilly…here are 23 ways to get hot.
*Track your progress with the downloadable PDF here.
1. Have sex in front of a mirror
Find your perfect angle and go for it. Instant voyeur vibes, even though you’re watching yourself (so also instant exhibitionist vibes). Btw you do not have to be partnered to try this! Watching yourself get off can be very hot.
2. Talk dirty to them in public
Whisper in their ear what you’re going to do to them that night, and do not be afraid to go into detail.
3. Go down on them with a seasonally flavored lube
I think we can all agree that fall has a superior flavor profile as seasons go, but why stop at breads and lattes? Oral sex can taste like creme brûlée or salted caramel, did you know that? Apply flavored lube to their genitals during hand play, then slowly lick it off.
4. Receive oral sex with seasonally flavored lube
…because reciprocation is sexy.
5. Have sex outside
Hear those leaves crunching? That’s because you’re having sex on them! Enjoy the great outdoors (with appropriate blankets and outerwear) and have sex while you camp or hike.
6. Explore CBD or THC sex products
They are everywhere at the moment so you’ve got options. Both CBD and THC are vasodilators, meaning they open up your blood vessels and help relieve pain, while heightening pleasurable sensations. But only THC is psychoactive, i.e. that “high” feeling, and if you know THC works for you then High Love gummies from VIIA are universally beloved. Reviewers say they give a subtle ramp-up to libido while gently increasing body warmth and improving orgasm, two things that sound very nice right now.
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7. Trade nudes with them
Because everyone loves a lil eye candy. If your current nudes are a wee bit outdated (or non-existent) here is a guide to taking good nudes. I gotchu.
8. Commit to at least ONE new oral sex position
Save one of the images from this article and text it to the person you would like to try it with. Trick or treat!
9. Join SmartSX
During 2024’s spiciest season, get a sex life to match. SmartSX is my no-holds-barred membership community where we talk freely about our sex lives, sex goals, and sex challenges. Plus weekly workshops with me and my favorite sexperts that you can play back anytime! Imagine – taking our recent Ethical Porn Screening & Workshop while you fold laundry.
10. Train your orgasm muscle
Pump it up for bigger, badder O’s and do kegels, 3 sets of 10/day. (Psst: all genders can do these! Squeeze like you’re stopping the flow of urine – that’s a kegel.) If you have a vulva and like getting the right equipment for your workout, here are the best kegel trainers.
11. See if you like bondage
If you have never been tied up (or done the tying), now is the time. Carpe diem with scarves and ties, or go high-end and get a leather restraint kit.
12. Try nipple clamps
The nipples have so many delicious nerve endings. That’s why they tend to feel good when squeezed, and with clamps, you can feel that sensation all the way through foreplay.
13. Or go for a nipplegasm
They’re real! Wear vibrating nipple clamps and feel what it’s like to stimulate those deep nerve endings. They signal the same region of your brain as the nerves in your genitals, and do bring about orgasm.
14. Wear a vibrating anal plug
Speaking of non-myths, bootygasms are real too. Have a unique sexperience by applying lube liberally, and inserting an anal plug the next time you masturbate. It’s a whole new take on orgasm! For absolute beginners, start with a small size.
15. Get a fall “facial”
If you’re into it, here’s the way to do it.
16. Discover a new kink
If you suspect you’re a tiny bit kinky (or have known forever, lol) then check out this list of 10 common kinks and fetishes to see if anything strikes your fancy. Fall season = the kinkiest season.
17. Have sex standing up
In the kitchen, against the drawers, in a closet…no matter where you do it, it’s giving on-screen erotic thriller classic.
18. Get into edging
Feel yourself getting close to orgasm, then intentionally back off. Work your way back up and cycle down, as many times as you can stand, for a wowza orgasm. Here’s an edging guide!
19. Try erotic massage with 🍂 seasonal 🍂 bodysafe candles
Drip the wax into your hands and rub them down, or drip directly onto their skin. The word “bodysafe” is key here because these burn at a lower melting point! Bonus points if your candle is scented cinnamon, pumpkin, or apple cider.
20. Skip 69ing, do 68 instead
If you’ve got a vulva this is the ultimate in oral sex indulgence.
21. Learn shibari
Go to a shibari class or meet-up and learn how to tie gorgeous bondage knots. Some of these classes also have a photography component, if you’d like to simultaneously learn the art of erotic picture-taking.
22. Do a boudoir shoot
Book a hot photo session for just you or you and yours. You will never regret taking yummy photos.
23. Make out on the sidewalk
‘Tis the damn season to passionately and romantically kiss in public. Here are the 7 secrets of making out.
Now be honest. Which items on the Fall 2024 Sex Bucket List are you going to try? Like…right now? Come find me on Instagram at @sexwithemily and let’s start checking these off!
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