With the Black Lives Matter movement sweeping across the country and around the globe, there has been a lot of information floating around on how to get involved and make a difference. One way to get involved by advocating for and patronizing black-owned businesses.
We here at SWE want to lend our support to black sex educators and coaches, as well as black-owned sex and intimacy shops.
You may not know this, but the sex education space has been dominated by white sexologists. This imbalance is nothing new, as evidenced by this article from five years ago. So many incredible sex coaches and educators are being overlooked because of implicit racial bias. Take a look at this eloquent explanation from the Women of Color Sexual Health Network’s (WOCSHN) response to the editors of a book called Secrets of the Sex Masters, which was comprised of all white authors:
Yes, for many of us, our bodies of Color do experience sex and pleasure differently. Our bodies are not solely genes and biology, but also the histories written on them and the myriad ways we have to navigate the world differently than White people, particularly for those of us who are racially Black and marked immediately as “Other.”
Some of us never even get the opportunity to really experience sex or sexual pleasure because we do not live long enough. Some of us carry shame about our bodies just by virtue of their color or the racialized traits they carry, which impacts how much pleasure we think we are even worthy of. That’s why any conversation about sexuality is also about race.
Black and BIPOC sex coaches, educators and therapists have a part to play in a global conversation about sex. As aptly stated by the WOCSHN,
“POC can speak to every issue in the spectrum of sexuality and beyond. The beauty of what many of us POC do is that we weave all these stories together and acknowledge they are actually inseparable.”
We wanted to take this time to point out some amazing resources that you should be aware of in the sex ed and intimacy space. Click on the links below and explore!
Black sex educators, therapists, and sexologists
A personal Favorite
As a kinkster and BDSM gal, I personally want to highlight someone I have been following on Instagram for some time, BlakSyn aka Kinky Black Educator (they/them). All of their posts are chock full of the most insightful information on consent, BDSM and kink best practices. As they noted in a post on June 5, 2020, “BDSM communities are mostly comprised of white people. Black people must actually labor to find community who looks like them.” This educator has a post on nearly every important topic in BDSM and even calls out some of the elitism in BDSM (see post on March 11, 2020). One of my favorite quotes from that post is “You are kinky enough,” which is something I often tell my clients who worry about being too vanilla for their kinky partners.
Black-owned sex and intimacy shops
Now is the time to do our part to eradicate inequities in the sexual wellness space. I hope this list helps you find the resources you need in your sexual journey. I hope, in turn, that the proliferation of this knowledge benefits the black professionals and entrepreneurs who bring this much needed education to the world.
Emily Anne is a bestselling author, sex coach and educator, who specializes in helping people expand their sexual horizons through BDSM and kink. When she’s not obsessively talking about sex, she’s hiking through the Hollywood Hills. Get some sexy education on her Instagram feed!