In this episode, I’m breaking down one of my all-time favorite tools: the Yes No Maybe List. If you’ve ever felt curious about trying something new in bed but didn’t know how to bring it up — or didn’t even know what was “on the menu” — this episode is for you. I’ll walk you through exactly how to introduce the list to your partner, how to fill it out (solo or together), and most importantly, how to turn your “yeses” into real plans you’ll actually follow through on. I’m also sharing some incredible stories from our community, breaking down newer terms you might not have heard of, and answering your live questions about what to do when you and your partner don’t match up on your answers.
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The Sex With Emily Glossary: https://sexwithemily.com/explore-play/swe-glossary/
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Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.
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Chapters:
0:00 – Introduction & Yes, No, Maybe List Overview
1:46 – What Is the Yes, No, Maybe List?
4:15 – It’s Normal Not to Know What You Want
5:31 – How to Use the List: Single vs. Coupled
7:37 – How to Prepare & Fill Out the List
9:38 – Yes, No, Maybe: How to Categorize
10:54 – Glossary Deep Dive: New Terms Explained
16:30 – How to Turn Your Yeses Into Reality
19:50 – What to Do When You Have Differing Answers
24:08 – When Nos Come From Shame or Fear
31:28 – Do Your Answers Change Over Time?
35:04 – The List for Trauma Survivors & Healing
37:48 – Live Q&A: Community Shares Their Yeses & Nos
